Cat for sale. Cheap. I’ll pay you! I’ve had Spider for twelve years, and despite a slight case of fatness, he’s funny and sweet-hearted and attentative to the stress-alleviation that comes from laying hand to soft fur. Ah, but I went and got married and I love my wife too much to watch her suffer. As bad luck would have it, she’s allergic to cat fur. It started out mild, but the longer she’s shared a home with my lightly-shedding feline, the worse her allergy has become. I’m weighing options, trying to keep him near enough to visit, praying for solution. I know that I have to find that black cat a new home, and I may be a tough guy (for a dork) but I have a soft spot in my heart for this black bundle of fur stretched out across my bed. So therefore, woe is me. I should have just saved myself all this trouble by getting thirty-nine more cats and becoming the scarey old cat-guy who orders Chinese food three times a day and is occasionally seen peaking out from between the window blinds. But I didn’t become him. I went and got married, and I love my wife, and alas, a sacrifice I must make.
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why not drop him in a tree outside your firehouse?
then you can suggest your company can adopt him.
Wow, what a dilemma. They say 6 million Americans are allergic to cats, and 1/3rd of them have a cat in their home. Add Dila to that list. Me too, back when I lived in NYC. Maybe some topical nasal steriod sprays and non-sedating antihistamines will get her through it. And Spider fat? Last time I saw him, he was slender and sleek. Hard to imagine.
There are ways to alleviate your wife’s allergies…. I’ve had cats all my life (I have a cat right now), and I’m allergic to their dander. That’s what it is, y’know. The dander. One of the ways I deal with it is to brush the cat as often as he can stand it (not TOO often), and then wipe him down with a slightly damp washcloth. When cleaning the house, I open all the windows while dusting and vacuumingto disperse dust outdoors. My vacuum cleaner is a Dyson - it’s a brilliant (albeit very expensive) piece of equipment that doesn’t blow dust and dander back into the air indoors. Vacuums with HEPA filters work well, too. You’d be amazed how little I’m affected by the cat these days. He even sleeps on my bed every night. Also, I found that by cutting out dairy products and wheat, I reduced my allergy attacks to almost zero. I used to suffer mightily from hayfever every spring. Go talk to your vet and/or an allergist. I’m telling you, there are ways to solve the problem. Not only that, and I hate to do this to you, but you’ll break Spider’s heart if you give him away, and if you do give him away and you only visit him sporadically, he will NOT understand, and you will feel a total heel. If your wife loves you, she’ll do everything she can to make it work. Jeez, guy, the cat was there first.
holy crap!!!! is somebody really saying that a f’ing cat will not understand something and that the wife will and should understand something?
nav, what the fricking hell are you doing? get rid of the cat and keep the wife. (cant believe i am sayin that.) put the cat outside and i can personally guarantee you it will either find a new home or at the very least a regular source of food. spider will get a knew name like drifter and some kid will feed and torture him happily. maybe you can get this situation excalated to the supreme court( save the life of a cat regardless of what the spouse says). or (save the cat because the cat has feelings) or (wife and cat on ventilator because husband cant stand people and pets).
Hempstead,
It’s amazing to me that you would talk like that to someone who obviously loves his cat. Of course he loves his wife, and she DOES come first.
But I gotta tell you something: It’s obvious you never had a pet while you were growing up. If you were in the same room as me, and you said that to me, I’d kick your ass out and down the back stairs, you INSENSITIVE a’hole.
See, this is the reason I normally don’t post comments. It’s people like hempstead who fill me with rage. Nav, if Hemphead is a friend of yours………..
FIGHT! FIGHT! FIGHT! :-)
Let me interject my unrequested and holier-than-thou opinion into the fray. Justin, I hear you on the whole pet thing, but I can’t see putting a pet, esp. a cat (I’m a dog person), over a wife. If my wife had problems with a pet, I’d find it a new home. I grew up with dogs and recently had to put my most beloved pet to sleep in his last hours. Losing a pet can be hard, but sometimes it’s the right thing to do.
Let me also say that I hear you, Justin, on getting the flames from Hempstead. I probably post here a lot less than I would otherwise because so many of the things I would say would only instigate worthless blog-comment-wars with Hempstead and JJ. That said, I think Hempstead’s comment was offered somewhat tongue-in-cheek. He’s bombastic, but I think he’s usually edging it with humor, so don’t take it so personally.
Also, FWIW, I think I met Hempstead once, and unless you’re about 7′3″ and 300 lbs, I’m not sure you’d be kicking much of his ass.
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thank you ken. as usual you are right in the money.
justin, dont let dorks like me keep you from posting. that gos for you to ken. you should feel free to voice your opinion and contribute anything you want this and many other blogs.
i love all animals and find it difficult to kill even a spider when i see one. usually i will do my best to relocate it outside the house where some bird can get to it. i am also very sensitive. so sensitive i question my own sexuality. even wrote a poem once.
seriously, sorry nav if i hurt your feelings. i guess i took a cheap shot at your cat, spider. justin, i have all the same rage as you do and often times think the world takes shit way too seriously. everyone is so offended by everything. i wish people could just relax and eat more and laugh more and fart more. i mean come on. relax. and of course post more on the blog. do not be discouraged by people like me. that would only empower the very people you despise.
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255lbs of love not violence
Hempstead,
You may only be 6′ 2.5, but your hands have the wing span of a terydactyl.
And everyone else,
Dork or not, agree or disagree, I love Hempstead’s comments.
Awright, already, fellas……
Here’s something for you, Nav: http://www.technewsworld.com/story/New-Hope-for-Cat-Allergy-Sufferers-41810.html Check to see if it helps. I would NEVER suggest the pet over the wife, though!
Hempstead:And I hear you, too. Don’t worry about it. But my issue is this: with all the homeless and abused animals out there, I refuse to take their plight lightly. When you adopt an animal, you are responsible for its welfare. If you’re not POSITIVE that you will be able to meet that responsibility for its lifetime, you’re better off not adopting the pet in the first place. I’ve always been extremely serious on that issue, as well as abuse of human rights and the environment. I’m the grandson of an honest New York cop, and I grew up taking moral cues from him. Don’t get me wrong, though, I can be just as ridiculous and easygoing as the next guy. Just ask my wife!
Um, guys, just for your information, I’m Italian and Irish (with the temper to match), 6 feet tall, 200 lbs., grew up in NYC, and I’m a 5th degree black belt in Shorin-ryu style karate. I’m not bragging when I say that I’ve put several guys in the hospital, and the last one was a guy I came across beating his dog with a stick, in Central Park. He was NOT a happy camper when I was done with him, and no he longer has the dog, who now lives in upstate NY. See? I’m as pure as the driven snow.
irish/italian??? me too. see we have much in common, including my love for wildlife and conservation. i am a fisherman but i support strict management of marine ecosystems. as of now i am behind the FSMEA. http://resourcescommittee.house.gov/democrats/backgrounders/FSMEAsheet.pdf
i too like to speak up when i see what i consider an injustice(handicap parking violators) but i have never resorted to violence. i am 34 and speak my mind and somehow i have avoided physical altercations. sometimes i wish i had your courage.
When did the WB become the frickin’ Lifetime Channel Support Group! I’m one more comment away from renaming this thread ‘Wussies on Pussies.’
The next time anyone posts on cats (or wallpaper or hair care or anything else that lowers the towering tsunami of testosterone that drives the WB) i’m going to put a regex for “cat” in the spam filter and drive all such discussion into the delete bin.
Ah, yes…Irish=poetry, Italian=passion……
Hmmmm…..I never thought of myself as having courage, really. In the case of the dog, all I saw was BLACK. My best friend was with me, and he eventually had to pull me off the guy. Afterward, he said he was a little afraid of what he’d just seen. He said it was like watching a volcano. But like I told him, somebody has to stick up for the helpless. If not you or me, WHO? Something I’ve learned along the way: courage is the ability to “feel the fear, and do it anyway”. That is, stare fear down, grit your teeth, and walk through it. Just about everone’s lives are ruled by fear, I think.
Thanks for the link. Very interesting (of course, now I have to trawl the Internet to satisfy interest). Actually, you seem a like a very nice guy. Sorry I seemed so thin-skinned before, but the plight of animals can get me very agitated! By the way, it’s better you’ve avoided altercations - you stay healthier that way :)
Jimmy, even the samurai raised pigeons.
Thanks, NAV. But I’m leaving this site forever. I don’t need to be insulted by make-believe macho men like Jim, who I bet deep down is just a pansy-assed faggot. Fuck you, Jim.
Justin. You’ve got issues.
And by the way, I’m not impressed by anyone who claims to be a fifth degree black belt in any martial art, and then tells some bragging tale about kicking some guy’s ass. Way I see it, this makes you more of a coward then a macho man.
Also, if you’ve got something bad to say about Jim, who is a true Diamond, then you’ve made an enemy out of me. So go fuck your own self. Good riddance, karate man.
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Holy S dude, I came here to see what cool yarn Nav had spinning this week and I found the sandbox war over cats. Anyway, for you music folks, sheck out the new ‘Benevento Russo Duo’– titled “Best Reason to Buy The Sun” Organ/Drum duo, Oh and “With Karate I’ll kick your A$$ from here to right over there”… -D